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Shri Datta Swami

Posted on: 05 Aug 2024

               

How to overcome jealousy?

[Ms. Bhanu Samaikya asked:- Swami! You are often talking with my sister through phone regarding the divine work in the mission of propagation of spiritual knowledge. When I hear those phone talks, I become very jealous about my sister. How to rectify this?]

Swami replied:- She is your sister and both of you are born to the same parents. Both of you were grown in the same house from birth and both of you share the same parental blood. In this situation also, when you become jealous of your own sister, imagine the strength of jealousy in the spiritual field involving non related devotees. Even in worldly life, this jealousy is inevitable to every human being. This jealousy is the only hurdle to be crossed and there is no other hurdle in the spiritual path especially when you believe in the contemporary human incarnation. The jealousy is mainly on the contemporary human incarnation because one of your co-human beings is worshipped as the greatest God by all your friends. Jealousy on the highest is natural and general everywhere because even the higher greatness of a co-human being cannot be tolerated by us. Then, how can we tolerate the highest greatness of one of our co-human forms recognised as God? This mistake is sin towards God (Bhagavadapacaara). Although a devotee is not declared as God, but, declared as the best devotee only, he/she shows higher greatness to our co-human beings. This also can’t be tolerated by us and this sin is against a devotee (Bhaagavataapacaara). God tolerates the sin against Him but can’t tolerate the sin against His close devotee. If a statue or photo of upper energetic incarnation or the past human incarnation is in the place of God, there is no problem because you can’t have jealousy with a statue or a photo since it is not an alive human form existing before your eyes. Such statue or photo does not speak that such and such devotee is very good. In the absence of such appreciation from God, the jealousy on the devotee is also not much. When God is in the human form, jealousy on God and jealousy on the devotee are very very natural.

The basis of this jealousy is ego and its related effect is called selfishness. Every human being wants to become the greatest like God in human form. If some co-human being is declared as God, every human being gets climax jealousy suddenly with lightning speed. But, the human being immediately controls it with a view that one should not be in hurry in achieving the highest position. Then, he/she becomes a devotee of the human incarnation so that in course of time, the highest position can be achieved. But, when the devotee develops in the path of spiritual journey, certainly an uncontrollable jealousy also gets developed simultaneously because the developing devotee belongs to the category of our souls only. In every step of jealousy, the ego and ambition for selfishness stand as the roots. ‘I’ is the basic ego and its effect is ‘my’, which is selfishness. The contemporary human incarnation alone is relevant to humanity and hence, the only spiritual hurdle is ego-based jealousy. The entire spiritual effort of the human devotee must be concentrated on the eradication of this ego-based jealousy only.

A human devotee neglects the contemporary human form of God on this earth due to repulsion between common human media of God and the devotee. When this devotee leaves the gross body here and goes to the upper energetic worlds in an energetic body, there also he neglects the energetic form of God due to repulsion between common energetic media. This repulsion is based on the jealousy between common media. In this way, the devoted soul loses God on this earth as well as in the upper energetic world. This is told as the total loss here and there (Mahatī vinaṣṭiḥ - Veda)!

Q. What is the hope for a soul to cross ego and jealousy?

[If this is the case, what is the hope for soul to cross ego and jealousy? Now, I feel that it is impossible by myself to be in spiritual path with this kind of imbalanced mind. What is that I should do now to improve?]

Swami replied:- You yourself are disqualifying yourself for the spiritual path. In such case, what can I do? Suppose a candidate is selected for a professional course through an entrance examination. That candidate comes and says to the principal of the professional institution that he is not qualified to study the course. Then, the principal will take the paper weight present on the table and will break his own head! You must at least have the basic confidence. Not only is praising the self a sin but also condemning the self negatively is a greater sin. This is the main defect in your psychology and I am observing this from the beginning. You must change this quality of always thinking negatively about yourself and thereby suppressing even basic confidence. You asked for the solution for your problem and this is the solution I give for your problem.

 
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